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We Must Feel To Heal

Some of us are thinkers more than we are feelers. We are proud that we can think our way out of almost any problem or situation. But the thing is, as much as we don’t want to admit it, we thinkers, often carry a lot of old unresolved feelings, or emotional baggage around with us. We rush around, quickly thinking our way out of every problem, we maneuver, manipulate or control, everything and everyone until we get the outcome we are looking for. But with every new problem, and every new quick “fix,” our emotional baggage becomes even heavier.

Yes, there are emotions that go along with problems, and quick fixes, just because we don’t take the time to acknowledge those feelings, and instead go straight to thinking and fixing - it doesn’t mean they don’t exist, or go way, it just means they get pushed down deeper inside of us, and can create tension in our relationships, or with anyone who finds themselves in our controlling path. Those feelings though, the ones we push down deeper each time we choose to fix or control instead of feel and heal, those feelings don’t sit down there quietly, they will keep pushing themselves to the surface trying to get us to notice them, to feel them, to heal them. Eventually they will start showing themselves in ways that do get them noticed, like anxiety, depression, fear, avoidance, relationship problems, and more. If those problems become enough of a problem, only then are many of us forced to slow down, backup, and address the hidden emotions tied to our past experiences.

Slowing down enough to feel, and then letting those feelings flow through us instead of stopping them or running from them, is the first step to becoming emotionally aware. If we push away, stuff, run from, medicate, or cover up with activities or addictions those feelings, we will not heal, we will not be able to move past them, and we will not learn the lessons they were meant to teach us, keeping us from truly maturing and growing our emotional intelligence, the very thing that will keep us from repeating our past. It is the same with old wounds from our childhood or distant past, when we take the time to go back and feel and process the feelings we were not allowed, or not able to feel at the time, we open up the way to healing those old wounds, living a life free from the unresolved feelings and unhealthy behaviors that once held us back, stopped us from ever moving forward toward the happier life and healthier relationships we have always dreamed of.


💕 Hugs & Happy Life, Love & Parenting,

Julie L Gibson-Vasquez
Life, Love & Parenting Coach
Idyllwild's Life, Love & Parenting - Social/Emotional Support Center
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  • About
    • About Us
    • Our Personal Story Articles >
      • About Our Story
      • Our Children's Gifts Can Show Themselves In Unpredictable Ways
      • Asynchrony, Trust & The Gifted Child
      • Reflecting On Our Jouney
      • My Apology To My Daughter
      • You're Rebecca - Hirsch - Spielberg!
      • In The Beginning...My Original Blog Posts 2012-2015
    • Coaching Request
    • Our Center In Idyllwild
  • Parenting Articles
    • About Proactive Parenting
    • Understanding Our Differences
    • Do I Have A Bad Kid?
    • What Is Gifted?
    • Identifying The Creatively Gifted Child
    • The Highly Creative Child
    • Identifying Your Child's Learning Style >
      • The Digital Child
      • The Kinesthetic Child
      • The Visual Child
      • The Auditory Child
    • The Divergent Thinking Child
    • The HIghly Sensitive Child
    • Supporting Children’s Intense Emotions
    • Supporting Imagination & Creativity In Gifted Children
    • Lack Of Motivation In Highly Creative Kids
    • The Importance Of Imaginative Play & Mental Emotional Freedom
    • Understanding Lack Of Compassion In Gifted Children
    • The Divergent Thinking Child
    • Homeschooling Our "Out Of The Box" Kids
    • ODD, ADHD or Anxiety?
    • What Is Quality Time To Our Children?
    • Using Questions To Motivate Kids >
      • Questions To Promote Compliance & Accountability
  • Tutoring & Classes
    • Growth-Mindset Study Skills Tutoring
    • Creative Kids Life & Study Skills Tutoring
    • Homeschool Enrichment Classes
    • Homeschool Learning Style Assessment
    • Homeschool Parent Coaching
  • Emotional Healing Oils
  • Emotional Coaching Tools & Toys
  • Life & Love (Relationship) Articles
    • About Life & Love
    • Understanding Our Differences
    • Communication, Respect & Boundaries
    • Personal Boundaries
    • Does Positive Thinking Work?
    • We Must Feel To Heal
    • Do You Have Balance In Your Life?
    • Keep Your Ship Water Tight
    • How To Unfollow People In Real Life
  • Coaching & Mentoring Programs
    • 6-Session Program: Parenting Gifted Children
    • 6-Session Program: Gifted Children 101
    • 6-Session Program: Life Coaching 101
    • 6-Session Program: Live The Dream - Creative Tween/Teen Mentoring
  • More On Gifted Children
  • Proactive Parenting FB Blog
  • Coaching Adult Assessments Only
  • Booklet's & eBooks - Anna Is Gifted
  • Abbey’s Pet Portraits
  • Understanding Differences In Gifted Children