We Must Feel To Heal
Some of us are thinkers more than we are feelers. We are proud that we can think our way out of almost any problem or situation. But the thing is, as much as we don’t want to admit it, we thinkers, often carry a lot of old unresolved feelings, or emotional baggage around with us. We rush around, quickly thinking our way out of every problem, we maneuver, manipulate or control, everything and everyone until we get the outcome we are looking for. But with every new problem, and every new quick “fix,” our emotional baggage becomes even heavier.
Yes, there are emotions that go along with problems, and quick fixes, just because we don’t take the time to acknowledge those feelings, and instead go straight to thinking and fixing - it doesn’t mean they don’t exist, or go way, it just means they get pushed down deeper inside of us, and can create tension in our relationships, or with anyone who finds themselves in our controlling path. Those feelings though, the ones we push down deeper each time we choose to fix or control instead of feel and heal, those feelings don’t sit down there quietly, they will keep pushing themselves to the surface trying to get us to notice them, to feel them, to heal them. Eventually they will start showing themselves in ways that do get them noticed, like anxiety, depression, fear, avoidance, relationship problems, and more. If those problems become enough of a problem, only then are many of us forced to slow down, backup, and address the hidden emotions tied to our past experiences.
Slowing down enough to feel, and then letting those feelings flow through us instead of stopping them or running from them, is the first step to becoming emotionally aware. If we push away, stuff, run from, medicate, or cover up with activities or addictions those feelings, we will not heal, we will not be able to move past them, and we will not learn the lessons they were meant to teach us, keeping us from truly maturing and growing our emotional intelligence, the very thing that will keep us from repeating our past. It is the same with old wounds from our childhood or distant past, when we take the time to go back and feel and process the feelings we were not allowed, or not able to feel at the time, we open up the way to healing those old wounds, living a life free from the unresolved feelings and unhealthy behaviors that once held us back, stopped us from ever moving forward toward the happier life and healthier relationships we have always dreamed of.
💕 Hugs & Happy Life, Love & Parenting,
Julie L Gibson-Vasquez
Life, Love & Parenting Coach
Idyllwild's Life, Love & Parenting - Social/Emotional Support Center
"Located In the beautiful mountain town of Idyllwild, CA USA."
Follow us on FB @ idyllwildslifeloveparentingcenter or IG @ idyllwildlifeloveparenting
Yes, there are emotions that go along with problems, and quick fixes, just because we don’t take the time to acknowledge those feelings, and instead go straight to thinking and fixing - it doesn’t mean they don’t exist, or go way, it just means they get pushed down deeper inside of us, and can create tension in our relationships, or with anyone who finds themselves in our controlling path. Those feelings though, the ones we push down deeper each time we choose to fix or control instead of feel and heal, those feelings don’t sit down there quietly, they will keep pushing themselves to the surface trying to get us to notice them, to feel them, to heal them. Eventually they will start showing themselves in ways that do get them noticed, like anxiety, depression, fear, avoidance, relationship problems, and more. If those problems become enough of a problem, only then are many of us forced to slow down, backup, and address the hidden emotions tied to our past experiences.
Slowing down enough to feel, and then letting those feelings flow through us instead of stopping them or running from them, is the first step to becoming emotionally aware. If we push away, stuff, run from, medicate, or cover up with activities or addictions those feelings, we will not heal, we will not be able to move past them, and we will not learn the lessons they were meant to teach us, keeping us from truly maturing and growing our emotional intelligence, the very thing that will keep us from repeating our past. It is the same with old wounds from our childhood or distant past, when we take the time to go back and feel and process the feelings we were not allowed, or not able to feel at the time, we open up the way to healing those old wounds, living a life free from the unresolved feelings and unhealthy behaviors that once held us back, stopped us from ever moving forward toward the happier life and healthier relationships we have always dreamed of.
💕 Hugs & Happy Life, Love & Parenting,
Julie L Gibson-Vasquez
Life, Love & Parenting Coach
Idyllwild's Life, Love & Parenting - Social/Emotional Support Center
"Located In the beautiful mountain town of Idyllwild, CA USA."
Follow us on FB @ idyllwildslifeloveparentingcenter or IG @ idyllwildlifeloveparenting
