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Our Children Become What We Tell Them They Are

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Stupid, dumb, lazy, good for nothing, unmotivated...the list goes on and on.  Words that when spoken to our children in a heated moment, a moment of lost control, that can never be taken back.  The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice - negative words, names or statements only tell them that they are those things - always, only say positive things.  If you have nothing positive to say, say nothing, if you wouldn't disrespect, speak those words or in that tone to a stranger - why would you do it to the one you love the most, your child.  Ask them, help them identify, and then validate the feeling behind the negative behavior, and lovingly redirect. No matter what we tell our children to DO - they will only remember what we have said to them about their choices, their actions, and themselves - choose those words very carefully, for from those words will be formed - the adult your child is to become.  INSTEAD USE POSITIVE WORDS, AND THAT IS WHAT HEY WILL BECOME.

If you want a child to show you respect, show respect to them first.  Respect their need for space and time to do the things that are important to them, respect their need to think and make age appropriate decisons for themselves, respect that they are not you and will think and want things different than you.  If you want a child to make good decisions, let them make their own decisions, say nothing about the bad ones - this is how they will learn, and commend the good their good decisions enthusiastically, no matter how small.  For it is from those small successes and our positive encouragement, that they will grow, and your child will become all that they can be. 

Want to know how to avoid the the dreaded teenage years?  Start young, start building a reciprocal trust and respect relationship with your kids from the start.  Communicate...more to come.

Julie L Gibson-Vasquez
The Proactive Parenting Coach

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  • About
    • About Us
    • Our Personal Story Articles >
      • About Our Story
      • Our Children's Gifts Can Show Themselves In Unpredictable Ways
      • Asynchrony, Trust & The Gifted Child
      • Reflecting On Our Jouney
      • My Apology To My Daughter
      • You're Rebecca - Hirsch - Spielberg!
      • In The Beginning...My Original Blog Posts 2012-2015
    • Coaching Request
    • Our Center In Idyllwild
  • Parenting Articles
    • About Proactive Parenting
    • Understanding Our Differences
    • Do I Have A Bad Kid?
    • What Is Gifted?
    • Identifying The Creatively Gifted Child
    • The Highly Creative Child
    • Identifying Your Child's Learning Style >
      • The Digital Child
      • The Kinesthetic Child
      • The Visual Child
      • The Auditory Child
    • The Divergent Thinking Child
    • The HIghly Sensitive Child
    • Supporting Children’s Intense Emotions
    • Supporting Imagination & Creativity In Gifted Children
    • Lack Of Motivation In Highly Creative Kids
    • The Importance Of Imaginative Play & Mental Emotional Freedom
    • Understanding Lack Of Compassion In Gifted Children
    • The Divergent Thinking Child
    • Homeschooling Our "Out Of The Box" Kids
    • ODD, ADHD or Anxiety?
    • What Is Quality Time To Our Children?
    • Using Questions To Motivate Kids >
      • Questions To Promote Compliance & Accountability
  • Tutoring & Classes
    • Growth-Mindset Study Skills Tutoring
    • Creative Kids Life & Study Skills Tutoring
    • Homeschool Enrichment Classes
    • Homeschool Learning Style Assessment
    • Homeschool Parent Coaching
  • Emotional Healing Oils
  • Emotional Coaching Tools & Toys
  • Life & Love (Relationship) Articles
    • About Life & Love
    • Understanding Our Differences
    • Communication, Respect & Boundaries
    • Personal Boundaries
    • Does Positive Thinking Work?
    • We Must Feel To Heal
    • Do You Have Balance In Your Life?
    • Keep Your Ship Water Tight
    • How To Unfollow People In Real Life
  • Coaching & Mentoring Programs
    • 6-Session Program: Parenting Gifted Children
    • 6-Session Program: Gifted Children 101
    • 6-Session Program: Life Coaching 101
    • 6-Session Program: Live The Dream - Creative Tween/Teen Mentoring
  • More On Gifted Children
  • Proactive Parenting FB Blog
  • Coaching Adult Assessments Only
  • Booklet's & eBooks - Anna Is Gifted
  • Abbey’s Pet Portraits
  • Understanding Differences In Gifted Children